We have all either been asked or seen others asked: “So when are you going to have children?” –at family gatherings, as a casual aside by colleagues, or even by complete strangers. There is societal judgement around having children, not having children, when to have children, and how many children to have. Even if we put aside the recent US Supreme Court decision to overturn the 1973 Roe v Wade decision and with it remove long-held rights around access to abortion in the US, there are numerous other ways in which reproductive choices are becoming weaponised, and what may seem to some an innocuous question is racialised, gendered, and loaded.