'Don't you forget about me': how quarreling parents in a virtual environment influence the emotions of offenders of domestic violence. In 2017 the Probation Service carried out a pilot with the virtual reality (VR)-simulation 'Don't you Forget about Me'. In total 13 offenders of domestic violence experienced as a 7-Year old boy a serious fight between parents. The simulation was part of the cognitive behavioral intervention BORG. Four groups underwent the simulation in Amsterdam and Rotterdam. It was assumed that this experience would lead to more empathy, awareness, and self-reflection. As the results showed, the simulation seemed suitable in BORG. Most of the participants were very positive about it. The fighting parents had a huge effect on them. Self-reported questionnaires administered after he simulation showed a better self-reflection on the behavior of the participants, more sympathy with the feelings of their children and (ex)-partner, and more insight into the damaging effects of the violence. The simulation appeared to be a powerfull device: it made a deep emotional connection, which enabled to create more empathy. [ABSTRACT FROM AUTHOR]